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Goddess Archetype Questionnaire

Instructions: below, you will see how to set up your Rating Sheet to write your answers to the Questions. Using a blank sheet of paper, set up the page so that you can fill in your rated answer corresponding with each question in each category.

You see that each number category, #1 - 13 has seven letters (A. - G.) with a statement. Then, as you read each statement, A., B., C., you will consider HOW TRUE that statement is for you, NOW. (Note--We answer differently in different times in our life)

Rating Range

3 = 90% or above (mostly always)

2 = 70 - 89% (most of the time)

1 = 50 - 69%  (half the time)

-1 = less than 50%

-2 = doesn’t fit

You decide to what extent you agree or disagree with each statement. Take that rating number and place it in the space next to the letter within the category to which it belongs...so, in the first category: My style: 1. A. 2 and so on moving down each column.

1. My Style

• Because I prefer being at home with family rather than going out, clothing and make up are not all that important to me.
• I prefer casual clothes that are comfortable and have nice texture against my skin rather than dressy, or stylishly tighter-fitting outfits.
• I prefer clothing that is flowing, perhaps prints, floral designs, perhaps frilly, that match the girlish part of my feelings.
• My style of dress: conservatively well-dressed, pant or dress suit, low heeled shoes, minimal jewelry--but my nice diamond wedding ring, light make-up.
• I love dressing up, my style is quite feminine, sexy & flattering my attractive figure. I love jewelry tastefully selected, colorful silk scarves to enhance my outfit.
• I prefer tailored, classical clothing - some may perceive it as more masculine in style - I feel more on equal footing with men dressed in this way. I’m not so interested in the latest fashion.
• I prefer clothing that is practical rather than fashionable. I’m not interested in attracting attention to myself by my clothing; therefore, I prefer very simple styles in neutral colors.

2. Relation to my body

• I’m more connected to my thoughts & ideas than having any particular awareness of my body.
• My body requires regular exercise -- physical fitness is a priority in my life. I’m o.k. with some touch - I’m not interested in being fondled - I prefer some emotional distance.
• I enjoy and seek out physical touch, regularly, in my interactions with those I love. I love using scented, creamy lotions to create baby-soft skin to be touched.
• To be honest, I don’t relate much to my body - it’s just not in my conscious awareness - as much as my awareness of my inner thoughts, dreams & fantasies.
• I’m not very interested in focusing on my body, I have more important things to tend to-- my activities: organizations, meetings, promoting my families’ activities. I feel a bit uncomfortable dealing with concerns of the body.
• My body is built for the nurturing of children--holding, hugging. This sort of touch gives me more pleasure than any other. I’m not that concerned about sex for it’s own sake--unless I’m looking forward to having another child, a process that I adore.
• I take care of my body in a manner similar to that of my home. I don’t think much more of my body than it’s ability to function well. I enjoy touch with my husband when it occurs; however, it’s not what I’m thinking about.

3. Home and hearth

• If my home was located in a prestigious neighborhood, the impression I seek to convey in my home: conservative elegance, I prefer a large, stately home, neat and tidy - a place to impressively entertain my partner’s prominent colleagues--and where I shine as the hostess.
• I enjoy city living - therefore, I would enjoy a condo. A ‘plus’ if it was near bookstores and near my work, as I tend to work long hours. You might find my laptop on my dining table along with my paper work as I’m frequently in the midst of my work.
• My home often emits the smell of baking or cooking meals. I prefer a house that affords a lot of room for my family, children and children’s friends to visit. My home is rarely tidy, but it’s well-lived in and is well enjoyed by all.
• I adorn my home with candles and/or other accoutrements that create a special ‘mood’. I require privacy more so than a lot of visitors.
• My home has strikingly tasteful color schemes, beautiful art work, lovely art pieces, wonderful to-the-touch fabrics in my furniture, plush carpeting into which your feet sink.
• I prefer country living--closer to nature, than in the city. I prefer to be near a park if I live in the city so as to enjoy the trees and wildlife. In my home I prefer plants over fancy art pieces. My furniture is comfortable and simple.
• My homemaker self is strong in me and loves keeping house--I engage in this like a meditation. My home is neat and organized, but not rigidly so. I always have fresh-cut flowers. Fresh-baked bread is something I strive for at home.

4. My relationship to food

• I prefer healthy organic foods to traditional store-bought foods. I eat consciously as I value a healthy, fit body. My body requires adequate protein to fuel my physical activities.
• I’m more desirous of the ambiance where I dine, although I do enjoy good food - I like the sensuality of it...the experience of the textures in my mouth. I would get a kick out of feeding finger-food to my partner while sipping martinis. I enjoy the romantic-ness of it all.
• I prefer eating out - I don’t have time or interest for cooking for myself. I’d rather eat out with a friend and enjoy stimulating conversation with each other.
• I love having family & children at my home to cook for. I love preparing enough food for everyone to enjoy.
• Mealtimes are important family occasions although I expect people to behave with appropriate conversation and manners, as this is important to me.
• Eating isn’t all that important to me. I might grab a piece of cheese or whatever else my whim might be--but I don’t care to sit down to a meal.
• Meal preparation is an important aspect of my sense of home-making and I prefer to prepare nourishing meals in a quiet, unassuming manner.

5. My childhood recollections

• Imaginary friends/animals were part of my life as a child-- companions or protectors in my day
• I imagined being ‘grown-up’ and having a mate to care for... and/or enjoying my dollhouse...having ‘adult’ tea parties.
• I loved playing ‘mommy’ with my dolls--wheeling them in the stroller. Feeding my dolls.
• I loved my books, I learned to knit/ crochet/ sew. I enjoyed playing scrabble, chess--mental activities or activities requiring hand/mind coordination.
• I loved being in the woods, exploring plants, streams, watching the little critters that lived there. I enjoyed exploring material under a microscope. I enjoyed archery and other sports.
• I loved playing ‘dress-up’ -- trying on glamorous clothes of my mother’s - walking around in her high heels - putting on make up.
• I kept to myself as a child; I was quiet yet independent. I appeared compliant; however, I was content to play by myself--quietly self-sufficient, I did not seek cues from others nor the desire to please others.

6. The type of “soul-mate” that I’m attracted to

• Earlier, I’ve tended to attract partners who weren’t particularly good for me--creative, moody, emotional, volatile, men who fascinate me, intense relationships, partners who stir me sexually, poetically verbal individuals, unpredictability, charming, sensitive lovers. As I’ve matured, I prefer a sophisticated, educated partner with good taste and the means to enjoy-- cocktails, linen, flowers, and romance.
• I’ve tended to be drawn to lovers who seek a maternal type of woman. I don’t have high expectations of them--they’re more “child-like”. I tend to give more than I receive. I do appreciate my partner’s taking care of me, financially, as I prefer not to work outside the home. I want to feel safe and secure and focus on family and children.
• I’ve tended to be attracted to individuals who are my intellectual equal. Their personality has a creative, artistic, healing or musical aspect. I want a partner who nurtures me. We have shared or complementary interests. We’re like ‘pals’ enjoying activities together that we love. We give each other a lot of space--that’s important to me. I need them to stimulate my love of adventure. I tend to be more practical than sentimental.
• I’ve tended to be attracted to successful partners who I tend to meet through my work life. I’m not all that flirtatious or romantic. My nature is more objective. I’m drawn to partners who are cultured and enjoy city life, intellectual and political interests. I need to be stimulated intellectually.
• I’ve tended to attract partners to me who are my complete opposite: street-wise, tough, magnetic; sexually alluring, dominant; or those who are much older who act as my “spiritual teacher/guide” and lover. I desire a partner who understands my inner world.
• I’ve always been attracted to upwardly mobile, powerful, successful partners who promise prominent position in the community of whom I can be proud. I’ve been willing to put my personal career on hold to support and to further their success.
• I tend to attract partners who are drawn to my quiet, unassertive, homebody yet self-sufficient nature knowing that I will make a good wife. My partner tends to be a traditional breadwinner head-of-household type. We’re both fairly independent and sex is not a priority in our relationship.

7. My experience or views of marriage or coupling

• Because I’m not very assertive, I’ve been persuaded to marry, or felt it was, culturally, what I was supposed to do. I’ve married with some reservations; or, I imagined something other than what actually became fact in my marriage. I believe in and yearn for a higher spiritual connection.
• Marriage is most important to me--what I’d been waiting for--I feel complete in a marriage... and, to become the wife of a promising, upwardly mobile, professional individual. The role we each play contributes to the stability of our marriage--which is important to me. I marry ‘for better or worse’. I want to experience devotion from my partner--to be their absolute #1 priority.
• Marriage in and of itself is less important than the experience of love and emotional/sexual intensity. When that’s over--it’s over, resulting in a pattern of serial relationships. As I’m not all that jealous, I understand the nature of ‘affairs’--I, myself, have tended to be flirtatious with others.
• I’m not particularly drawn to marriage--I possess a very independent nature and my freedom is very important to me. I don’t really feel the need for another individual to complete me. However, a comrade-type relationship could appeal to me. We might decide to live together rather than to marry. In my partnership I require equality--and it’s unlikely that I will change my last name.
• My desire for marriage is for the creation of a secure environment with a responsible partner with whom to make babies and to enjoy raising my children.
• I’m more interested in companionship--a mutually advantageous partnership- in marriage rather than passion. We greatly enjoy communicating about events, politics, and our careers. Feelings, on the other hand, are not a topic of discussion.
• I really don't have ambitions out in the world. I prefer a quiet life at home - and I’m fine alone. My partner may travel or be away from home working. I’m a homemaker and I appear traditional in that sense; however, I don’t need my partner to fulfill me emotionally. They do not provide my inner ‘meaning’.

8. Relationship to my sexuality

• For me, sexuality and marriage are united. Initially, I tended to be more reserved, sexually. Sexuality is part of my role and what I have to offer to my partner. I've relied on my partner’s expertise in arousing me, sexually. And, monogamy is essential!
• When younger I was rather seductive. I am highly sexually responsive -- easily aroused by my lover. I prefer lovemaking as a regular part of our interactions. My attitude toward sex is more casual.
• In my younger years I put my energy into my career. I tend to feel more related to my intellect than to my sexuality. I’m not so interested in sexual expression as much as other forms of expression--ideas, discussions. I can be a skillful lover if I put my mind to it.
• In my earlier years I was interested in having children--not just having sex. I would just as soon cuddle as make love -- to be honest. Sexuality for it’s own sake is not all that important for me--making babies would satisfy me more.
• Sex was like an adventure when I was younger. However, as I’ve matured my independence has increased; companionship, sharing activities with my partner--best friend seems more important than sex.
• I didn’t awaken sexually until a bit later in my life. It took awhile. If the truth were told, I felt more girl-like than woman--however, I felt really good about my self when I discovered my passionate, orgasmic nature.
• Sex in and of itself isn’t that important to me. In fact, my sexuality frequently lies dormant in me until lovemaking is initiated. I do enjoy lovemaking when it occurs - it’s a warm experience my partner and I share; however, I’m also fine in its absence.

9. How I feel about children

• I don’t have a particularly strong instinctive pull for motherhood although I do like children. I enjoy my athletic figure/activities more than ‘being’ pregnant. I would be equally happy to ‘inherit’ a ready-made family. With my children I tend to foster their independence, early. I enjoy taking them hiking & teaching them about nature & animals.
• I’ve had a strong instinctive pull for motherhood--giving birth and nursing my own child would be (is) so fulfilling. Not having a child would create an unmet longing.
• Children are part and parcel of being a family. I expect good manners and achievement from my children. They should make their parents proud.
• If I had my druthers, I would focus energy into my career rather than having children. However, I look forward to my children reaching the age of ‘reason’ so that I can enjoy conversations and projects with them. I prefer that my children demonstrate curiosity, logic and independence and are not crybabies.
• I adore inspiring my children’s creativity & self-expression and charm them into being well-behaved. I draw out my child’s abilities in a way that make her feel beautiful and accepted. I’ve been told, however, that I have tended toward inconsistency as I may give my child my total attention at one time and then may be off on my own social interests and desires at other times. I’m warm and generous with my children; however, I don’t make them the center of my life.
• I feel sensitive toward the needs of my children; however, I find it difficult to discipline them--don't set limits very well; I don’t feel comfortable asserting ‘power’ over them. As children, I enjoy nurturing their imagination through play and story-telling.
• I provide a safe and comfortable haven for my family and children. I provide them with loving acceptance. It’s not in my nature to push them in the world--I don’t have any great ambitions for them. Whatever they desire is fine with me. I’ve become aware, however, that I may be a tad-bit impersonal and undemonstrative toward my loved ones.

10. My favorite activities

• I love reading, writing, keeping a dream diary, imagining, reflecting, fantasizing, I love my garden and growing plants & flowers. Although I enjoy my friends, I need plenty of alone-time to renew myself.
• I love collecting fine art--paintings, ceramics, beautiful clothing and matching accessories/jewelry; I love attending art galleries and parties/open houses of artists. I so enjoy theater, dance and musical performances. I delight in social occasions.
• I am an avid hiker, I enjoy camping in pristine natural settings; I’ve enjoyed competitive sports and/or working out on a regular basis as I am naturally athletic.
• I am very involved in local volunteer efforts in the community and/or in conjunction with my children’s school. I receive particular pleasure being in charge and organizing. My work is something I do outside the home; however, my primary commitment is to my partner. I gear my activities and hours to match my partner’s time at home.
• I am very interested in reading up on the current political situations locally, nationally & abroad. I find these discussions with well-informed individuals very stimulating. I support minority group issues; I enjoy museums, lecture series, I look forward to thoughtful discussions following viewing of provocative films.
• Involvement with family and close friends is my most favored, shared activity. I love cooking for family, friends and their children as well. I find this experience so satisfying--bringing everyone together sharing in a meal--the children playing together. I also enjoy sewing projects, knitting, baking, and making cookies with my children and their friends.
• I enjoy quiet time--believe it or not, I enjoy my housework--it’s like a meditation for me. I focus on one chore at a time, getting into the rhythm of it without worrying about ‘time’. I also enjoy reading, baking, meditation, flower arranging. On occasion I enjoy tea and sharing quiet communion with a dear friend. Occasionally I look forward to attending retreats of silence.

11. Social Occasions

• You can usually find me in the midst of a group of men, frequently one of the only women--like one of the boys--in a heated political or intellectual debate. I’m not interested in the flirtatious elements in which other women engage.
• I feel rather shy in social situations. I’m more likely to be talking one-on-one with someone who is in need of an ear, listening to her or his concerns
• I would prefer being a hostess at my own social event with my husband’s colleagues & their wives--I like organizing and being in charge of my own event.... and to pull it off smashingly!
• I adore parties and social occasions--I shine! I love to mingle - mingle, and flirt, and weave my way throughout the room. I definitely notice the most attractive individuals and they notice me.
• I’m not so keen on social events with other adults outside the venue of my friends and family. I often feel reluctant to go. I don’t know what there is to talk about with these people.
• I tend to feel restless at social events--all the flitting & flirting about that goes on. I’d rather get together with a group of my women-friends and talk about things that really matter.
• I don’t care much for social occasions. I prefer to stay home and read a good book and enjoy my comfortable surroundings--my fireplace (or if I had one).

12. Type of friends I am drawn to

• My friendships are, to a large extent, related to children--my children’s friends’ mothers and mothers of other children. We have love of children in common as well as related family interests.
• I tend toward sisterly relationships/friendships with women. These relationships are very important to me--I am not like other women who prefer the company of men. I am drawn to women with more feminist leanings.
• I'm drawn to more intellectually oriented energy in friendships. We are typically discussing work, politics, and other intellectual debates. My friends possess, as I do, strong views, articulate them well and may at times tend toward intellectual competitiveness in a sporting manner.
• My friends tend to be different from me--I am able to be rather chameleon-like. My female friends tend to have somewhat stronger personalities than I do. I have some difficulty saying ‘no’ at times. I tend to have difficulty putting my feelings into words. As much as I enjoy my friends, I enjoy my time to myself quite a bit.
• I have numerous female acquaintances through my various organization and volunteer groups - however, if my partner’s job causes us to relocate, as my family is primary, I am able to pick up and move for the sake of my partner's career. This is more essential to me than friendships.
• I have a wide circle of women friends and acquaintances. My women friends are either similar to me in that we live and love with intensity--we don’t get offended as we tend to treat our plans rather casually. OR, I have other friends who seem to enjoy living vicariously through my love adventures. I tend to be generous with my friends when I am with them; however, I just seem to get quite busy with my social calendar.
• I have one or two female friends--we enjoy getting together from time to time. We tend to enjoy similar subdued sensibilities and share similar values. We provide each other a listening ear, compassionate heart and centeredness. We do not engage in gossip. We do not engage in intellectual discussions, either.

13. Books I enjoy and have around my home

• I most frequent cookbooks as I love trying different recipes; I have knitting and gardening magazines; crafts magazines and, on my bookshelves, a number of children’s books.
• I am interested in Better Homes & Gardens Magazine as it is important to me to keep abreast of tasteful home decorating; travel books, People Magazine, as I’m curious about the latest "scoops"; illustrated coffee table books.
• I have around me books on metaphysical subjects and/or spirituality, psychology, mythology and photography and creative writing. I very much enjoy my quiet time to devote to reading.
• I enjoy and have around me books on yoga, brochure magazines on kayaking & rafting, National Geographic, books on best hiking places, picture books of national parks.
• I enjoy books on famous painters and other creative artists/dancers, and collage. I also enjoy novels and period pieces involving romance. I have a subscription to a few favorite, contemporary clothing & jewelry catalogues.
• I enjoy material offering a stimulating intellectual read--such as political news magazines, journal articles, feminist writings & avant-garde literature.
• I enjoy reading stories about the lives of women in history--saints and other esteemed women. I have a few Buddhist books on centering practices; I also have some bread-making and flower-making books.

Once you have rated your level of agreement to each statement corresponding to the appropriate number and letter, transpose your Rate Sheet scores to the Goddess Tally Sheet, below.

Example:

Category #1, Question A. -- you rated yourself a -1...find row 1, then locate ‘A.’, (it is under Demeter) and place the -1 score in the space provided.

Category #1, Question B. -- you rated yourself a ‘1’ - so, looking across the horizontal row of 1, find the letter B. (it’s located under Artemis)

Starting with #1, working across, fill in your rating score for each of the letters.

Then go to #2, working across, find your rating score and fill it in according to the corresponding letter

You follow the same procedure throughout each of the numbers.

After all the Rating Score numbers have been placed next to their corresponding Letters, you add up the numbers (vertically) in EACH goddess category (subtracting, when required).

For a printable version of the Goddess Tally Sheet, click here.

Goddess Tally Sheet

Place the Goddess Score by each Goddess name - seeing which goddesses have the highest ‘scores’ and the lowest ‘scores’. The highest ‘scores’ suggest the goddess energy you feel most comfortable with--predominating in your consciousness. The ‘lowest’ scores reflect qualities you are least connected with on a conscious level. These are qualities you may be least familiar with in yourself. You may wish to keep this in mind as you read about the various goddesses in this site. You may discover a desire to cultivate qualities of the goddesses for whom you received lower ‘scores’

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